Why It’s Not Safe To Talk About Music On The First Date

He was introduced by a family friend. An overall good guy with a clean cut, engineering grad who just passed the board. I was a sophomore in college and kind of wondering if he was going to be my first boyfriend. Although he was a nice guy, we were not exempted from the awkwardness of a first date. I didn’t know the rules and I was hoping to wing it. Huge mistake.

Him: Do you like music?
Me: Yes. Do you?

I was somewhat disappointed with the question because I thought it is a given that everyone loves music. I haven’t met anyone who doesn’t. That should make it a fact, not a hasty generalization. True? But then again maybe he’s too nice to be presumptuous.

Me: What kind do you like?
Him: Alternative.

Alternative in essense is the opposite of mainstream. Alternative was, and probably is, cool. Honestly, now, I believe alternative, just like any other genre, was created by the music industry moguls to create a new market. The one to sell Nirvana, The Verve, Suede, Blur records to. (Did I mix alternative rock and Britpop?) Of course, when moguls create a new genre, they will be sure to sell everything that goes with it: the apparel, the lifestyle (may or may not include illegal substances), ideas (may or may not be limited to sex, abortion, marriage, divorce, dating, suicide) Clearly, you can now see how clueless I am in this or how huge the genre is.

Since I was in college when this date happened, needless to say, I was impressed when he said he liked alternative music.

Me: Who’s your favorite artist?
Him: Westlife.

Aside from music, I also like sarcasm. He was funny! Because I was nervous during this time, I didn’t laugh. But I did grin, which genuinely confused him.

Him: You don’t like them?

Sh*t just got real. He was serious. He truly liked Westlife. I remember Westlife when I was in high school because Swear It Again was on the radio a lot. But back then, I was a Hanson fan because, hey, they write their own songs and play instruments. I would go as far as say that the only thing that kept Hanson from being alternative was that they were hugely popular plus they had indiscernible lyrics. Mmm Bop?

Me: No. I’m more Nirvana and Sigur Ros.

College was the peak of my pretentiousness. But back then I didn’t call myself pretentious because I believe that if I have faith in these artists’ music, then I’d soon enough imbibe a life that is full of art, depth and meaning. Yes, I was a whole load of bull crap. I actually tried to read Umberto Eco!

Needless to say, there was no second date. He now lives in the Emirates with his wife and two kids while I am still a walking dating disaster. Also, a friend just pointed out to me that I now have a terrible taste in music. Truth be told, that doesn’t bother me at all. My playlist now includes Britney’s From The Bottom Of My Broken Heart because she really sounded cute then. And I play Maroon 5’s One More Night while I take a shower.

For the life of me, I ccouldn’t understand why I wanted to be cool or deep or poetic. I certainly didn’t look the part. Maybe it’s a prerequisite of growing up. Being pretentious is so not cool. Not that I’m saying I’ve stopped being pretentious just because I now admit to listening to pop music. I’m looking at you Twihards.

Very Inspiring Blogger Award


Thanks a lot Abhishek for nominating me for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award. You’re awesome not just because you meet love interests on the train but because you translate those encounters into stories I want to be a character of. Hope to read more of your stories.

Here are the rules:
1. Display the award logo on your blog (top).
2. Link back to the person who nominated you (below logo)
3. State 7 things about yourself (below terms).
4. Nominate 15 other bloggers for this award and link to them (below 7 things).
5. Notify those bloggers of the nomination and the award’s requirements.

7 things about me
1. I spent almost six years in film school. I didn’t learn to act though. I can’t fake an orgasm or a smile if my life depended on it.

2. I am a perpetual commuter who loves trains.

3. I have always loved to write since I was little but only started to blog recently. So far the whole thing feels inspiring and surprisingly therapeutic.

4. Food is one of my greatest passions in life. The 20 pounds excess I have should be sufficient proof of that.

5. I am an editor for a financial research company. I love my job because I have passion for the written text, the company gives us a total of 30 vacation days in a year and the pay is more than decent.

6. I am not a big fan of pets. I am scared of dogs because I was bitten by a huge one when I was seven. Photos of snakes and other reptiles terrify me.

7. I think bald guys are hot.

Now, my 15 nominees:
1. http://snarkysnatch.wordpress.com/
She more than makes up for my awkward and involuntary celibacy. She’s really funny and I want to get drunk with her.

2. http://thelovemanifesto.wordpress.com/about/
He reminds me of John Gray. If you need to figure out your relationship issues, read this blog.

3. http://abhisheksinha99.wordpress.com/
He’s got his heart broken and poured them on to his blog. Love is sad and beautiful just like him.

4. http://desireinspiration.wordpress.com/
She’s doing what I want to do for a really long time now, write adult literature. Her stories are hot, to say the least.

5. http://gabfrab.com/
He claims to have infused himself with puppy DNA. Plus, sometimes surrealism can be good in moderate dosage, for me at least.

6. http://zoellemargaurite.wordpress.com/
She is a talented writer and artist. We don’t like the same music and movies but we are great friends.

7. http://confederacyofspinsters.com/
This blog should be required for contemporary women. Feminine has never been this classy.

8. http://clownonfire.wordpress.com/about/
Because who doesn’t want a clown on fire? If you live a sheltered life, read his blog for a much needed abrasion.

9. http://thecitizensoffashion.com/
My daily dose of fashion. I know that me and fashion shouldn’t be in one sentence but this blog is kind of my guilty pleasure. Everything stylish, sophisticated and vogue is in here.

10. http://toemail.wordpress.com/
I envy the places the toenail had been to. Or the toemail for that matter. If you have a toe fetish, this would be the right place.

11. http://hollybee42.wordpress.com/
She does comics every day. Definitely high-larious, that Holly.

12. http://themonumentaljackass.wordpress.com/
Don’t let the name jackass fool you. He writes stories and does them very well.

13. http://glutenfreegus.com/
I mostly stare and salivate at the pictures of food here. I’m sure foodies would appreciate this blog.

14. http://renardmoreau.wordpress.com/
He reminds me to write about real issues but then I rarely do. Maybe because sometimes I feel content reading his.

15. http://theverybesttop10.com/
Because everyone loves lists of anything and everything.

Congratulations to all of you!

Job Application

Matt Scannell
87 Delaware Road
Hatfield, CA 08065


Dear Mr. Scannell,

I am writing to apply as your girlfriend as was indirectly announced in Wikipedia. I am enclosing a complete and updated resume, relevant certifications and three references.

The opportunity presented is beyond interesting, and I believe that my educational background, overall upbringing, work experience and not to mention, my spectacular personality, will make me a very competitive candidate for this position.

The key strengths that I possess for success in this position include:

* I have listened to all songs of Vertical Horizon at least 50 times each.

* I eat, breathe, live music, from terrible sounding boybands, to crooning broken-hearted divas, haunting classical music. to the pretentious British artists.

* I write, not as eloquently as you do, but I do have a deep understanding of those times when you itch for the pen to spell out your thoughts.

* I have successfully written and directed two short films. You could say I’m an artist, too.

* I have experience in customer service, collections, telephone banking, online ESL teaching, (creative) writing, research,  scriptwriting, production managing, directing, photography, blogging and editing. I am sure that those would prove useful if I were to be your girlfriend.

* I have a passion for learning. In fact, I would be taking my masters next school year.

* Most importantly, I love bald guys.

Please see my resume for additional information on my skills, experience and other qualifications. I can start with the job at the soonest possible time.

I can be reached anytime via email at its8am@gmail.com, Skype: trainrides or my mobile, 0906-487-xxxx.

Thank you for your time and consideration. I look forward to speaking with you about this employment and romantic opportunity.



Jobet Penalosa